PART 1: The Lies We Believe |
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PART 2: Telling Ourselves the Truth |
CHAPTER 1: |
The Truth About the Lies We Believe |
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CHAPTER 7: |
The Truth About the Truth |
CHAPTER 2: |
Self-Lies |
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CHAPTER 8: |
To Err is Human |
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"I Must Be Perfect." |
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CHAPTER 9: |
You Can’t Please Everyone |
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“I Must Have Everyone’s Love and Approval.” |
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CHAPTER 10: |
There Is No Gain Without Pain |
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"It is Easier to Avoid Problems Than to Face Them.” |
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CHAPTER 11: |
You Don’t “Have To” Do Anything |
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“I Can’t Be Happy Unless Things Go My Way.” |
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CHAPTER 12: |
Virtue Lies in the Struggle, Not the Prize |
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“My Unhappiness Is Somebody Else’s Fault.” |
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CHAPTER 13: |
Life Is Difficult |
CHAPTER 3: |
Worldly Lies |
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CHAPTER 14: |
You Reap What You Sow |
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“You Can Have It All.” |
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CHAPTER 15: |
You Are Not Entitled to Anything |
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“My Worth is Determined by My Performance.” |
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CHAPTER 16: |
Emotional Pain Is Good |
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“Life Should Be Easy.” |
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CHAPTER 17: |
You Are Going To Die |
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“Life Should Be Fair.” |
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CHAPTER 18: |
Is There An Ultimate Source of Truth? |
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“You Shouldn’t Have To Wait for What You Want.” |
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CHAPTER 19: |
The Truth About God and You |
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“People Are Basically Good.” |
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CONCLUSION: |
How To Defeat Your Lies |
CHAPTER 4: |
Marital Lies |
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“All My Marital Problems Are My Spouse’s Fault.” |
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“If Our Marriage Takes Hard Work,
We Must Not Be Right for Each Other.”
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“My Spouse Can and Should Meet All of My Emotional Needs.” |
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“My Spouse Owes Me (For All I Do).” |
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“I Shouldn’t Have To Change
Who I Am To Make Our Marriage Better.”
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“My Spouse Should Be Like Me.” |
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CHAPTER 5: |
Distortion Lies |
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“A Mountain Out of a Molehill” |
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“Personalization: Taking Everything Personally” |
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“Polarization: Making Everything Black or White" |
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“Selective Abstraction: Missing the Forest for the Trees” |
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“Overgeneralization: History Always Repeats Itself” |
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“Emotional Reasoning: Feelings Equal Facts” |
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CHAPTER 6: |
Religious Lies |
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“God’s Love Must Be Earned.” |
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“God Hates the Sin and Sinner.” |
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“Because I’m a Christian,
God Will Protect Me From Pain and Suffering.”
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“All My Problems Are Caused by My Sins.” |
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“It is My Christian Duty to Meet All the Needs of Others.” |
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“A Good Christian Doesn’t Feel Angry, Anxious or Depressed.” |
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“God Can’t Use Me Unless I’m Spiritually Strong.” |
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