People with this thinking error tend to emphasize their total difference from and superiority to other people. They see themselves as special, even “one of a kind.” They use others to achieve their own ends. They are unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge other people’s feelings. They simply cannot (or will not) relate to others’ needs and desires. What they want or need is the thing that is most important in their own eyes, so they usually behave in a selfish and uncaring manner.
People with this thinking error are actually narcissists. The term originated from the Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Typical narcissists exhibit a pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one’s gratification, dominance and ambition.
“It’s all about me” people are unlikely to generate close, warm, loving relationships. They are impatient, anxious or angry much the time. This has often been seen to result in abusive and dysfunctional relationships, loneliness, temper tantrums and provoking behavior leading to violence and domestic violence and murder, pornography and sexual fantasy addiction, alcohol and drug addiction, adultery, bankruptcy, divorce, child abuse, nervous breakdown and despair.
People who live under the “it’s all about me” misconception will exaggerate their own achievements and talents to the point of lying. They see themselves as more competent than everyone else, and may attempt to assume a leadership position because of this - even though they do not yet have very many achievements under their own belt.
People with this thinking error are falling right in line with Satan’s plan. He wants us to put ourselves first and others last. He loves to see us get “big heads” with inflated egos, and take for ourselves the glory that actually belongs to God. Just remember, but for the grace of God, we would be nothing. Any skills, talents and abilities we have were given to us by God and are to be used to glorify God, not ourselves. We have been put on earth to serve others, not ourselves.
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